The
HEART in the series for today stands for:
H = Happy
E = Ever
A = After
R = Requires
T = Time
Time is essential in a relationship, be it the one that you have with members of your family, religious associations, political affiliations or what not. Without time, the bond between mothers and their children would not be there. Without time, religion would cease to exist. Without time, human existence would totally come to a halt. People tend to have a better relationship with who they spend more time with and that is why some children develop a special kind of love for the nannies that spend time and love nurtured them. However, it is very important to note that time must not just exist for nothing's sake. To make efficient use of one’s life, one must take charge of time.
Therefore, I am going to dwell on the importance of time in relationships, every relationship that hopes to stand solidly must be built on time. Couples must find time to pray, play, plan, talk, make out and when in disagreement, to forgive because time, as they say, heals all wounds.
TIME TO PRAY:
We must understand that God incorporated relationship, instituted the first marriage and that any relationship that will work must be built on a Godly foundation and steered by God through prayers. It is never too late to invite God in if your relationship is not built on Him. “With man this is impossible but with God, all things are possible” Matt 19:26. Invite God today and your situation will never be same again. Remember also that a saying goes that “The family that prays together, stays together."
TIME TO PLAY:
It is necessary to remember that even as smart and hard working as Jack was, he understood that "all work and no play made him a dull boy." We must learn to switch off our busy mode sometimes to enjoy life with theones we love. We must understand that when the chips are down, we would primarily get the required support from those loved ones. The family must not just be fueled by the money you provide, but also the time you create to socialise with loved ones. Go on dinner dates, go camping, backpack for a vacation, just totally switch off that work mode for a while and enjoy life with your spouse or family.
TIME TO PLAN:
Winston Churchill said, "He who fails to plan, plans to fail." This remains correct even for relationships today. There must be a road map for every long journey that one embarks on, except for a journey to nowhere. The road map is the plan that spells clearly what is to be done, when, how, and
by who along the way. It must be flexible enough to allow changes when necessary, for instance, a new family that plans to have 3 kids with age differences of 3-years in between may be blessed with twins at the first try and thereby the need to change their plan. Plans must be deliberated upon and an agreement reached as this would lead to the synchronization of 2 separate plans to become one, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh” Mark 10:7-8. Celebrity relationship crashes occur not because of lack of roadmaps, but because of the existence of dual maps that lead to different destinations.
TIME TO TALK:
There must be concerted effort by all parties in a relationship to find time to communicate. The world will be a better place when we do not just talk but communicate with one another. Grudges usually exist because of lack of proper communication and relationships that plan to remain Happy Ever After must be relationships that communicate. It is important that you understand that while growing up, you had a lot of friends either as classmates, neighbours or members of the same social or religious association, but a lot of such people can no longer be called friends because the lack of communication has made you drifted apart. Communication is, therefore, the water necessary to help relationships grow.
TIME TO MAKE OUT (18+):
For married couples only. You should find time to commune sexually, understand your spouse’s favorite position and experiment. You can be as raw as raw can get without breaking the limit. Sexual interaction between couples should not be a rigid marital obligation, you can infuse play into it and make most part of your apartment your sexual playground, the kitchen, bathroom, sitting room and even the store can be experimented with, but like I earlier stated ‘without breaking the limit’. This may not be suitable for couples in shared apartment or when kids are around as you do not want disturb others nor lead the young and unmarried into sin. Sexual communion must remain Godly and as such must be within the confines of marriage only.
TIME TO FORGIVE:
The bond that binds a nation together is deeply rooted in diversity. People should understand that our diversity means that we are from different cultures and exposed to different upbringing, we need not agree at all times but to forge ahead, we must learn to forgive one another. This is true about relationships too, no matter how deeply you love your spouse, there will be moments of disagreements, but you must learn to always bury the hatchet and forgive.
Please note that for your relationship to be Happy Ever After, you must combine most if not all that has been enumerated above and a lot more that will follow in this series.
I will rest my pen here today.
Happy reading.
+kehinde adigun Its been two 2months together, and a lifetime to go. Thanks for being wonderful.
Photo Credits:
Time, Praying couple,
Talking couple,
Eating couple,
Planning, Forgiveness,
Playing couple